It was also said "Whoever divorces his wife must give her a bill of divorce." But I say to you, whoever divorces his wife(unless the marriage is unlawful) causes her to commit adultery, and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery. Matt. 5:31-32         

In todays world nobody wants to talk about divorce. At least in the way scripture talks about it.

Whoever divorces his wife, causes her to commit adultery. We'll get to the exception clause in a second. If divorce is a valid option, why did Jesus state, that those parties would be commiting adultery? Simple. Marriage is for life. Let's look at another passage from Matthew's gospel concerning this topic.

Some Pharisees approached him, and tested him saying,"Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any cause whatever?" He said in reply,"Have you not read that from the beginning the Creator 'made them male and female' and said,'For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh'? So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore, what God has joined together, no human being must seperate." They said to him,"Then why did Moses command that the man give a bill of divorce to dismiss her?" He said to them,"Because of the hardness of your hearts Moses allowed you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so. I say to you, whoever divorces his wife(unless the marriage is unlawful) and marries another commits adultery." Matt. 19:3-9 

Man and woman decide to get married.They handle the physical part.God joins together and makes the two, one; spiritually. Man must not seperate what God has joined together, just as man must not kill what God has created.

Some scholars understand the exception clause to be a modification of the absolute prohibition. Others say it may have been particular to Matthew's community, the violation of Mosaic law forbidding marriage between certian blood and/or legal relationships(Lev. 18:6-18). Marriages such as those are refered to as incest(porneia) the word is also translated harlotry, adultery and fornacation.

In Mark 10:11-12 and Luke 16:18, Jesus prohibits divorce absolutely. Even Paul in 1 Cor. 7:10-11, speaks in reference to Jesus' prohibition on divorce.

We can see everywhere in our culture, when we make exceptions to the rules, we erode  the moral fabric of society. We are then desensitized to sin and the effects it has on our society, and we are left scratching our heads asking," What has happened to our culture!?"

But it's not to late, God the Father, has offered forgiveness and healing through Jesus Christ His Son. It's ours to recieve. His grace is offered. Now it's up to us.

9 Responses

  1. If two non-believers marry and then later divorce while still non-believers, then later one of the divorced non-believers marry another non-believer, is it still adultery? It may sound silly but I’m being serious.

  2. If they stay non-believers, that would be the bigger problem at the judgement than the adultery.But, to answer your question, let’s look at the situation.
    Unbelievers will only be judged by their rejection of Christ, so even if they are adulterers, their unbelief supersedes that.
    The question would then be,is the marriage covenant the same for non-believers as for believers. I would have to answer that question with a yes.
    God is the originator of the marriage covenant,so the unbeliever entering into that covenant would be bound by the covenants laws, whether or not they were believed.
    Wow, what a question! I hope this answer helps clear this up a bit.

  3. Ok, so if a believer were to marry a divorced non-believer, is there any for the non-believer to repent and accept Christ without divorcing the believer?

  4. Repentance will always be recieved with forgiveness.And you come to Christ just as you are. In my church there would be steps to go through to make this a valid marriage,either before or after the marriage, but the heart issue would need to be established first.

  5. We have had discussions before about repenting meaning to stop doing what ever it is. I don’t see how the adulteress marriage can be resolved if one stays in the marriage. Doesn’t the adultery continue?

  6. It will..until repentance. It must be a heart attitude change. I think we will all agree that David was forgiven of his adultery,and the scriptures do not mention a divorce then remarriage to Bathsheba. Only God can take what we sooooooo mess up and make something redemptive out of it.
    Now one of the beauties of the Catholic Church is, well we’ll talk later.

  7. You’re invited too. Please read my post from Thursday. Don’t miss the comments. 🙂



  8. I received Christ as my saviour/ my life and my everything. i became a christian 4 yrs ago…my husband became a christian 2 yrs ago…now my question is…because we are married before from previous relationship and we dont have any source to spend for annulment case…are we still in sin? eventhough we’ve been together for 13 yrs with a child. when we became christian we repent this matter…and we ask for forgiveness to God and to our previous marriage.

  9. Monette,

    I would suggest you talk with your priest, but my answer would be yes you are still in sin until your previous marriages are annuled.

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